Changing negative thoughts to positive life lessons
The fashioning of a life, is to a degree dualistic. We all have experiences in the day-to-day where our thoughts are negative and positive. We have those good days where everything goes according to plane, but we also have days that are bad, where life gets on top of us and negative or anxious thoughts occur. This to some is a daily routine where they are not strong enough to overcome negative thoughts.
But how are negative thoughts of ‘why me?’ dealt with? And how can the thoughts be turned towards a more positive thoughtful way? The route is using mindfulness training known in the western belief as positive psychology. But also, the western practice of cognitive reframing.
If you are going through turbulent times in your life at the moment, or are prone to having negative thoughts, how do you turn this around? Here are some techniques positive psychologists would explain to you.
Remain calm and composed.
Do not let the mind wander, use loud breathing techniques to block the times of negative thoughts.
Facing up to hardship can bring on negative thinking and is never easy to overcome. If it were, then life would be a breeze of breath. However, in times of thought the breath becomes slower and deep, loud breathing at that point is not an easy process.
Being equanimous in breath is by remaining calm and consciously composed that can then allow the positivism of the breathing process to begin. When you breathe you relax and so giving you are feeling that is a conscious act of living positively, instead of a shallow breath lowering the mood.
The fundamental process of practising composure is just a great tool when dealing with negative thoughts and situations. It is the acceptance of what is positive - by the breath relaxing - but most importantly it is acceptance of the negativity, without thoughts as an aversion or clinging on to them. Aversion is a reality that produces thoughtful negativity with us because thoughts can overwhelm. By staying in an equanimous state will allow the mind to stay balanced in the breathing process. So, saying, giving consciousness to breath overpowers negative thinking.
Open up to your personal emotions and feelings.
You are just being human. You have an array of personal emotional feeling to experience. Do not shy away from them, no matter what feelings they give. By facing up to negative feelings of emotional thoughts with positive feelings are the best way to heal. Feelings are created via body posture. Babysit those feeling until you mature into a more positive posture. Open yourself up to your postures, when with that moody person in the office and think of how you are posturing. Don't judge them or think about them, judge yourself. This can be turned into a kind of mindfulness training of thoughtful meditation.
Allow sorrowful, negative thoughts time and if they body posture comes into line, like using a sorrowful smile, that smile will eventually lift your spirit past the negative thoughts. This will allow you to not only live a lighter life, but it will allow you to gain perseverance over negativity.
Remain objective in your thoughts.
Remain objective if you see your life in subjective negative thoughts. In this point of view, we tend to, out of the subjective habits of thought, have a lack of peaceful self-awareness via breath.
Being objective when someone gives you a moody glance or a conversation with someone whose tones are bothersome is the key. You need to find objective positivism. The person whose tones towards us that we do not like is a person that has troubles at home. That is the way you should direct your thoughts to become objective. The moody person needs to be thought of as someone that had a family argument. These are the ways that the mind can be redirected from negative thinking.
You need to stop thinking with a personal attitude about why people are the way they are. You need to go deep inside yourself and look for the reasons why people are like they are, it is not necessarily because of you.
As yourself, what are your thoughts teaching you right now?
If you ask this question of yourself you may find that your life revolves around negativity. You may find that you think in negative ways about yourself or even others. The moody person you may see as someone that is just that way and fuel that notion by mentioning as a topic of conversation. This is not a positive attitude and can only fuel your own negative self into a negative thoughtful life.
Asking yourself the question will cause and compel you to search inside yourself for a more positive attitude. It will give you a lesson that is most meaningful and also relevant towards you in the moment of your present body and facial posture. When you have found that body posture, pay attention and think. Why?
As I have said, life is dualistic and two sides of the coin can become one. We can on the flip side enjoy life and smile for that moody person once in a while.
The bad negative thoughts of life do not always have to be there. Think positively in ‘why’s and how’s?’ and think exercises in simple excuses, instead of negativity. This way of thinking alleviates doubts, fears and worries.
We can get through them if you would just think of: why am I like this? Thinking of 'why not?' instead, at the right moment, can trigger yourself back into a positive emotional state of happy feelings. This can be utilised to your benefits, knowing tomorrow may not be as bad as today is a positive attitude that overcomes the 'Why am I like this?'
Reshaping life lessons through correcting body/brain barrier plasticity.
The experiences we have causes an emotional response within us. Whether it is negative or positive largely depends on the psychosocial triggers that is happening around us at the present point of time.
The emotional point stays as a memory input to the brain and is known as plasticity. That emotional experience revolves around the body/brain barrier and is shared in the story that you tell others, in the way you express vocal emotions and body language. The is how negative and positive life lessons are formed and becomes the brain’s neuronal receptors of plasticity in the body/brain barrier of hormones and scent.
Plasticity is the ability of the nervous system in the body and brain to be functionally modified by resultant repetitive actions that causes hormonal changes. This plasticity builds you into the character you are today from birth.
In other words, we are the sum total of our existence from the experiences we have had that mould and shape our life lessons into positive and negative reactions.
But what if we can change negative lessons and memories, emotions and feeling in our character and biological chemistry? Chemistry and character associated with particular events in our life. Not only that, but mould the sets of emotions and feelings, in a one-step heuristic approach, to becoming more positive in your life lessons of plasticity?
This is a one-step lesson to learn for yourself and is known as cognitive reframing. This is a psychological technique, that helps identify and then to confront negative or worrying doubts in thoughts. It is a way, in cognitive reframing, to view life lessons in a different and more positive way in your character.
An example is in work stress. If the boss gave you a severe reprimand. After that, you would carry round negative emotions, that would cause you to become less positive. And then, more towards placation if you have a negative, worrying doubting character. When you use cognitive reforming, you can tell yourself a different life lesson story in your plasticity. This will change your physiological responses of hormones to that experience.
Within this example, when you shift the way of your perspective towards your boss and then tell yourself and your boss, that it taught you a valuable lesson instead, you will undergo a change in your physiological biological chemistry in your body/brain function. Instead of fearful worrying about giving your boss placation all the time, the psychosocial interaction between you will change. It is a conscious shift that literally reframes yourself away from fearful worrying, negative thoughts and into a positive light that your boss will display in the psychosocial interaction with you.
Psychosocial is the mental and sublime stimulation perspective that reinforces power and positivity in your life lessons from others to your singularity.
The art of cognitive reframing is not restricted only to past memories and experiences where plasticity holds you. It is also your belief that through cognitive reframing you can stop yourself ruining your present in a way that causes you to achieve certain goals via self-awareness.
This self-awareness is to keep check of your composure via the use of slow blinking and breathing. When the lips tighten, because you may doubt yourself or fear worrying, at the stresses of the moment, just smile. These three routes are a part of cognitive reframing. It helps restyle plasticity in the character of your emotional responses of physiological attitude and so changing the brain's biological chemistry It relieves the body’s release of cortisol in the adrenal glands on top of the kidneys.