If you feel you are shyer than you would like to be, then you are not alone. A lot of kids, teens - and parents - say they get anxious at social settings. Whatever situations cause you anxiety this advice will give you some help.
The condition of anxiety disorders is a very stressful situation for parents, young children and teenagers and can cause them much confusion. These webpages have been written to help suffers of anxiety. They give symptoms and advice to parents, teachers, children and teens on the several conditions known as anxiety disorders. It gives details of the different types of anxiety disorder that have been diagnosed in children and teenagers. Mindfulness training techniques which are the main therapy for children and teenagers is also, advice given on these webpages.
If you have chronic anxiousness, obviously your parents should be as caring and supportive as possible. That is not an easy task however and even the most well-meaning parents can fall into negative cycles. All parents do not want to see, you their child suffer. A negative cycle can actually irritate emotional responses in a youngster who has anxiety. This happens when the parents who anticipate your fear, then try protecting you instead of helping them manage it. The way to helping a child with anxiety, if you are a parent, is to take a deep breath and stay calm when anxiety in your child is getting you upset or frustrated. Doing deep breathing causes positive changes in the brain due to its parasympathetic action in the body/brain barrier of, 'rest and digest' calmness.
These webpages will give you tips and advice on what to do, when the different types of anxiety disorder strike you or your child.
Children and teens with an anxiety disorder find persistent symptoms that are centred around a: single theme or; multiple themes. It causes you as a developing child or teenager, a large amount of distress and disrupts your daily lives. The anxiety disorders here are in several categories:
Separation anxiety disorder.
This is the most common of the anxiety disorders in children and some teenagers. This disorder is when you have extreme fears about threat or harm to a family member/s. The fear is deep-seated and involves something bad that is going to happen to one of their family members or friends, even to yourselves. When they are apart from these members it causes extreme fear, worry or anxious feelings and emotions in the central nervous system. Being apart from family on school days can actually cause diarrhea, stomach aches, trembling and headaches in separation anxiety disorder. The pain and trembling however, comes from a body/brain barrier dysfunction and not just their bowels.
This anxiety disorder is very intensive in its nature and is not a controllable disorder - some say - in children. Panic attacks are the issue with this disorder. The symptoms include in this disorder are, vomiting, shaking, dizziness and heart palpitations. Panic can last for several minutes and can occur at any time and are unexpected. Panic attacks are scary and because of this, it causes most of the child sufferers to avoid their societal situations. This is quite simply because it makes them feel too scared or even leave them feeling embarrassed.
Panic attacks are a feeling of extreme worry or fear that are felt as a debilitating effect. Panic attacks strike the sufferer with no trigger. They can occur when the child is are trying to relax or even wake them when they are sleep.
A child might suffer a panic attack only once, but many children suffer repeated episodes. A panic attack comes from the, ‘flight’ in the body/brain barrier of the sympathetic nerve. If they happen to be recurrent to the child, they are quite often the result of certain places and situations like school and the playground.
It triggers the sympathetic nerve into 'flight' because they are not able to escape and it gives feelings of extreme anxiety and danger signals in the brain’s chemistry.
These children can be extremely uncomfortable within the societal attitude of schooling. Quite often they suffer mutism, which means they become socially silent. They can chat with immediate family members, but not to someone from outside the home. More often than not, they refuse to go to school by making excuses.
Social anxiety disorder.
Teens teen to be more aware of what other people are thinking. They are made to feel and think there is a right way of doing things such as: what to say or what to wear; and socially things that should not make them lose points with friends; or doing something that will cause embarrassment to the group of friends. This can all cause thoughts and feelings of social anxiety.
Having people pay particular attention to them gives them the idea of social anxiety in a lot of them. Feeling anxious all the time can bring on the conditioning of social anxiety disorder. This is because it causes the brain chemicals to change from, 'fight' in the sympathetic nerve to, 'flight'. This switches on the fear centre of the brain. This then causes the anxious thoughts and feelings to become established in the amygdala. This social anxiety disorder is diagnosed, when you worry so much so, that you cause anxiety about the way you display yourself to others. This of course also causes fear in the sympathetic nerve of the body/brain barrier of, 'flight'. This can cause freezing and social mutism.
Most children and adults with this condition start to have effects between the ages of 8-15 years old. Most children can hide the fact that they are anxious for a while. Their teachers, friends and also their parents may not notice anything wrong in the initial stages. This is because children cannot explain the feelings and emotions and a teen is quite often ashamed to admit how anxious they really are, because other people are not upset in the same way.
Here is an explanation of what happens and also what to do if you feel - or parents do - that you are developing the condition.
Here are a couple of examples children and especially teens, of positions in social anxiety, you may find yourself in:
You have a new lab partner that keeps asking you to come around to share homework sessions. You want to go, but you keep thinking you will do something strange or embarrass yourself. Eventually he/she will start to seek you out less and less, then they will assume you do not want to be a friend.
You find yourself worrying over a class presentation and so decide to play truant and cut class. In other word’s even though you care a lot about schooling you would rather cut class and get lower grades, rather than face up to your fears.